Recently I came across few women who are going through a rough time in there lives. I personally do not want to see anybody hurt but feel honored to help them. In past two weeks I came across two women who have completely given up on their ability to have a happy life. One of them had made the second attempt to suicide. No, she is not crazy…way too hurt. I totally understand what she is going through. Her marriage lasted for 7 years and she immensely loved her husband. She was pregnant too. But the ruthless man kicked and physically abused her and the baby died in her. I saw her in the intense unit care where she lied under white cotton sheet. Her brother woke her up and she just peeped under the sheet. She didn’t want to talk or listen to strangers. Her beautiful face lit up the whole room. Her eyes were blank but filled with tears. I was thinking that she might not even talk to us. But then I don’t know how she opened up views on committing suicide. She justified her stand on why dying is a better option than living the life she has. I will request people that not to consider committing suicide a coward act. Neither that I mean it means to feel brave to die. But we should understand why people choose that option in order to help them out. I again request people that I am not trying to instigate any suicidal feelings.
So what makes us so weak to make that choice? Is it the love that we say has betrayed us…or do we feel scared about what people are going to say…I totally understand how the abuse takes over our soul and feel controlled by the other person. Abuse are of many types….emotional abuse which breaks your self -confidence slowly makes you believe that what your partner or any other family person is doing is right. I am saying all this because I have gone through this personally. And one more thing that I noticed is that people who have not gone through do not understand these feelings than the people who have survived such relationships. I don’t mean that they do not understand what happened but to know you need to experience it. To which I don’t wish for anyone to see. Heartbreak is different than somebody who has been heartbroken and abused at same time. Both men and women take them differently. Men who fall in love also get thoughts of suicide like women. But suicide is not the answer to your problems.
The person your thinking to die for would not feel sorry for your death. Or your death will not give your partner less of a problem they are facing now. Just see the other way around- you partner did not feel sorry for hurting you emotionally or physically. The only thing you can appreciate is that you loved the person truly…you gave your best. And that’s all that matters. The key is to slowly gather your feelings and try a fresh start. You may feel that it is the end of the world for you or feel nobody would care if you die. But no your families, your friends will never be the same without you. Life as I know now has so much to offer that a man’s love is not the only thing you seek for. You may feel that if I leave that guy you might not be the same person again. But the truth is nobody remains the same. Time changes and the situations make us do what not. You will never believe that you had all those power to give so much to the world.
I am very happy the way things are falling for me. As people who helped said “you will have good days and you will have bad days”. Sometimes we need to set our feelings aside and live for another day. Because the moment you leave hope, your soul has no reason to move on. I say to all the heartbroken people out there that you live for somebody’s love for a while now it’s time to discover yourself now. So be patient and don’t let somebody else take control of your life.
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